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12-Year-Old Girl Hurt In Avondale Shooting

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CHICAGO (CBS) — A 12 year-old girl was shot in the leg after her father got into an argument with another man. At around 2:24 a.m., the girl was traveling with her father in a vehicle in the 3200 block of North Kimball Avenue when a man fired shots
'CHICAGO (CBS) —  A 12 year-old girl was shot in the leg after her father got into an argument with another man. At around 2:24 a.m., the girl was traveling with her father in a vehicle in the 3200 block of North Kimball Avenue when a man fired shots from a gold-colored sedan, according to Chicago police. Police say the girl’s father and the man who fired shots got into an argument minutes before at a retail establishment, which then led to the shooting. The father was the intended target, but he was not injured. The father drove his daughter to the hospital where she is recovering. Area North detectives are investigating.'

Carolyn Hax: Stalkerish photo sent to her ex-boyfriend

Relationships East Bay Times

DEAR CAROLYN: My daughter recently ended a five-year relationship with no marriage involved. She has moved on and now has a boyfriend. My daughter, her boyfriend, other family members and I attended a graduation ceremony. While sitting in a
'DEAR CAROLYN: My daughter recently ended a five-year relationship with no marriage involved. She has moved on and now has a boyfriend. My daughter, her boyfriend, other family members and I attended a graduation ceremony. While sitting in a gymnasium waiting for the ceremony to start, my daughter saw a co-worker of her ex sitting in the audience. She mentioned it without physically pointing, so as not to draw attention. Minutes later I glanced in that direction only to see that person aiming a camera at us. A few days later my daughter called me and said she got an angry call from her ex to ask who the new boyfriend was. It was obvious that the picture was sent to her ex. Related Articles \t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\tCarolyn Hax: They said my Facebook posts were insensitive after broken engagement\t\t \t\t\t \t \t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\tCarolyn Hax: He apologizes for everything, and I’m tired of saying ‘no problem’\t\t \t\t\t \t \t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\tCarolyn Hax: Do I really have to tell my child how I got pregnant?\t\t \t\t\t \t \t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\tCarolyn Hax: My mom wants me to lie to grandpa\t\t \t\t\t \t \t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\tCarolyn Hax: I may dump her because of her bizarre eating habits\t\t \t\t\t \t I would love to put this nosy person in their place but not sure I should or how to go about it. Any thoughts?  D. DEAR D.: Well that’s creepy. But it’s not for you to fix. And this people’s-paparazzo is not the one to call out anyway, even though the shooting and sending were both the work of a true bottom-feeder. It’s the ex-boyfriend who owns the truly reprehensible choice here. When presented with this photograph, he had one decent response available to him: “Why are you taking pictures of my ex, much less sending them to me? Her life is her business now.” But he didn’t. He took the low road instead and scolded your daughter for having the audacity to do what either half of a broken-up couple was fully entitled to do. It’s not for you to put him in his place, though. It was your daughter’s place to say to her ex, calmly and firmly: “The photo was inappropriate, this call is inappropriate, and I’m hanging up now.” [click.] If she didn’t, then please encourage her to, if and when this type of line-crossing ever happens again. Explaining herself only tells him, falsely, that he deserves an explanation from her. DEAR CAROLYN: Recently I have been somewhat deluged by requests from friends (and distant acquaintances) for GoFundMe contributions so they can go on their “bucket list” vacations. I think these requests put people in a difficult situation — is one a “real” friend or not? There is an implied guilt trip … or maybe it is just me. I have recently taken two trips to Europe. These trips were important to me and they put a dent in my finances, but they were my choice and I will deal with the debt myself. Friends want to take river trips in Europe or walk the Camino de Santiago in Spain, and those are nice plans, but they should also plan to pay for the trips. My fear is that people will remember who gave and who didn’t — I know I would if I ever made a request like this — and this will change the nature of relationships. So, instead of feeling guilty, I get angry. I also see requests for birthday donations to charities. I think this is rather narcissistic, as in, “Aren’t I wonderful for having a noble cause?” L. Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays? DEAR L.: So I guess I shouldn’t ask you to support my cause, Advice Columnists Against Extravagant Projecting and Judging. By my count, you’ve said asking for money for oneself is bad; asking for money for others is bad; and not giving money to those who ask for it is bad, even though their asking was bad in the first place. Maybe you’re just having a bad day? Without even offering an opinion about online bucket-list panhandling, I can give you a way out of this that is possibly the easiest way out of anything ever: Give what you want to when you want to, and don’t give anything you don’t want to. If you want to streamline some more mental and emotional clutter, then make a conscious decision not to judge anyone — not even yourself — for asking, not asking, giving, or not giving. Because judging is work. It asks you to get informed (if you’re doing it right), to keep things in mind and balance competing interests, to care about things not your business, to take sides for or against people you know, to invest yourself in an outcome, and to declare yourself superior for knowing better than the person you’re judging. Why bother, when all you have to do is decide, delete, live your life. The one thing I would judge, full disclosure, is scorekeeping. If others keep score of friends’ decisions not to donate, then that’s seriously petty. It’s also a self-solving problem, because if I lose a friendship because my friend is too petty to be my friend, then it’s hard to see that as a loss. And if you yourself would “remember who gave and who didn’t,” truly, then please work on whatever drives the “who didn’t,” grudge-holding half of that emotional equation — and in the meantime, keep being someone who doesn’t ask others to give. Related Articles \t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\tAsk Amy: If I ignore these men’s ‘compliments,’ they yell at me\t\t \t\t\t \t \t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\tCarolyn Hax: They said my Facebook posts were insensitive after broken engagement\t\t \t\t\t \t \t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\tMiss Manners: Her creepy fiancé’s hidden cameras have driven me away\t\t \t\t\t \t \t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\tAsk Amy: My narcissistic husband wants me to suffer\t\t \t\t\t \t \t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\tCarolyn Hax: He apologizes for everything, and I’m tired of saying ‘no problem’\t\t \t\t\t \t Email Carolyn at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at www.washingtonpost.com.'